Here are some facts about domestic abuse from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
- On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.1
- 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.1
- 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.1
- 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.1
- On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.9
- Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.2
- Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.2
- 19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.2
- Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.2
- Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.2
It’s all shocking.
Here’s some advice:
- If you are a victim of domestic abuse, your spouse doesn’t love you. Love doesn’t do that. Read 1 Corinthians 13
- If you have been hit once, get out. There may be reclamation in the relationship, but that will only come by confronting the matter immediately. That will be less likely and nearly impossible if you remain to be a target.
- God does not expect you to sacrifice your well being to save a marriage. In most cases, the only way to save a marriage that has domestic violence is to protect yourself and be safe.
- Suffering for the children is a false expectation. They will be more damaged in the middle of domestic violence and often become victims themselves. Show your children respect for yourself and them by dealing with it appropriately and immediately.
- Don’t worry about embarrassing your spouse or family. Not matter their place in life or society, you’re more important than all that. Undoubtedly, the uncovering of an abuser will protect others.
- Get help! While I am not familiar with this group, their material online seems right: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
There are other sources as well to get help. Keep strong and get away from any abuse.
I do not pretend to have covered the subject here, only hoping that this reference today might be a wake up call to all who read this that our position on domestic abuse is zero tolerance.